The last remaining one in my family is now out. She cracks me up though. She and her husband split up after 7 years of marriage and she started dating a guy that she met at a tikki hut bar. Her husband was also dating another woman. She called the elder in the congregation and told him that she was committing adultry and to go ahead and disfellowship her. The elder started asking her pointed/details questions about her infidelity and she told him, 'none of your business' and then he said OK. (what a pervert these elders are) He then called her back and told her that she had 7 days to think about it.
She said she absolutly, positively knows, without a doubt that this is not a christian based religion. There was no love, no consoling after her husband left her with 2 kids. She had repeatedly asked the elders to help with her martial problems (before and after the separation) and their answer was basically that she needed to spread her legs for her husband more often to keep him from straying.
Anyway, I asked her why not just fade out but her answer was, she did not want to play games. She knew that if she got disfellowshipped that no one would bother her and thats what she wants because when you are disfellowshipped, congregation members are forbidden to visit with you or talk to you. She's a pretty smart cookie.